Thank you Craig for your comforting response. I wanted to elaborate a bit more so it makes more sense. What I meant by him wanting me to join him was more a feeling that something bad was going to happen to me and that he was telling me that I would be coming home soon. I was scared of this thought, as if an accident would take me away from my family and that scared me. I am not ready yet. I have had many experiences from the time I was little, mostly with dreams and being visited by loved ones, sometimes on the very evening they passed and didn't find out about them dying until afterwards. I have felt his presence at times, felt cold, hair standing on end on my head, and could see in my mind him holding my face in his hands, it was always a very loving feeling, and usually it was at times I wasn't expecting it or sad in any way, I think it was his way of showing love and giving me comfort, maybe he felt I needed that. I don't expect him to follow me around, I didn't mean that, but I know when he pops into my head all of a sudden and remember the times we shared that he must be thinking about me too. It is times like that where sometimes I can feel him, and I talk to him in my head, not usually outloud. It's almost like talking to my spirit guide, but I can tell the difference, I just know it is him and not my guardian. I have done tarot since I was 12 and have a strong although mostly undeveloped psychic ability. I am usually only able to tune into people I am close to, and usually only in times of pain or death. I cannot control this and it seems the information comes when I am not looking for it. Which is why when I felt Jim around, I just knew it was him, and it doesn't scare me, I trust it. This is why I was disturbed when I was feeling an urgency, as if he was trying to warn me of something and I don't know what it is. When I ask, the only message I get is a puzzle and it confuses me. I asked what he was trying to tell me and he said he is giving me a baby, which is strange because I am not trying, nor do I think I can have any more due to endometriosis. I don't think about having more children at all. He said he wanted to give me a gift. So the message I got the other day is different than what came through yesterday. I am just not trying to think about it, and if he wants to come through again he will, but I know I cannot force it. I feel a little better now, but a little confused about his puzzle of a message. Thank you so much for your response.
Love and Light,
Jill

: Hello Jill,

: Your experience of dreaming about Jim was wonderful, and that's very much in keeping with what we know about those who cross over. They want us to understand that death is just a transition and not to be concerned about them—they're fine.

: Jim is going on with his life now. He has a new occupation and is growing in spiritual maturity. He has a house where he lives and has those who crossed over before him around him.

: The afterlife is a thought realm. People are as real on that vibration plane as we are on this Earth plane, with bodies and houses and landscapes. But they communicate more by thought and thoughts influence their lives more. We also communicate by thought on the Earth plane, but we're so caught up in the physical realm that the thoughts get drowned out.

: Those in the afterlife communicate with us by thought. They also receive our thoughts. When you think about him, he receives your thoughts, wherever he happens to be in the afterlife. However, he doesn't follow you around all day. He has a new life there and he's very busy and happy. He's not the person you know, now. He's matured and has learned more lessons. He's evolving in his spirit.

: If he wants to communicate with you, he will. You don't need to work at trying to get a message from him. If he wants you to have it, he'll give it to you. He's not concerned about you because he now knows that life is eternal, and when you cross over, you'll see him again. But that doesn't mean he expects to have a relationship with you as partners. He expects you to go on with your life and have other loves. There is no feeling of possession in the afterlife. All those you've loved will be there, and no one will feel like you have to love them more than someone else.

: As far as the feeling he wants you to be with him, that's simply not coming from him in the afterlife. They NEVER feel that. They know that life is a blink of the eye in time, and you have your life to live and lessons to learn. He wouldn't want you to stop that. If you cross over in 40 years or 60 years it doesn't make any difference. And he isn't expecting you to stop your life and never love anyone else. He certainly isn't expecting you to end your life.

: All those in the afterlife who communicate with us tell us that suicide is not an option. It doesn't solve anything. We need to work out our problems in this life—that's why we're here. Those who commit suicide still have to work out their problems, but unfortunately they have to do it while they see the anguish they caused those who loved them on the Earthly plane. They're not judged or condemned for their action, but they judge themselves and always feel very sorry they did it because of the pain it caused.

: So Jim wants you to live your life and grow to have more love and compassion. He would never want you to end your life. If he wants to communicate, he will, very clearly. You'll know it. If it's a dream, it will be like the first dream you had. You'll awaken and know for sure it was him and you'll remember the message. If you don't get a clear message, it's just your physical realm fears. They're not from him. If you have a frightening dream or a dream suggesting you end your life, it will be from your physical realm fears and it won't feel like it came from him. He would never suggest that. And he doesn't follow you around or haunt you. He's busy with his own life.

: Yes, there is a need to let go, but it's your need to let go of him. If he were trying to communicate with you, you'd hear him clearly. Go on with your life and be happy.

: Love and peace, Craig