Hello Angie,

I am so sorry you're feeling separated from your father. It's obvious you love him very much. He's not gone from you. He just doesn't use a body any more.

You asked about the possibility of his visiting you while you're asleep, or for any other kind of ADC experience.

Those kinds of experiences happen without warning and without action on your part. There is no specific reason they do or don't happen. When they don't happen, it doesn't mean your father isn't OK or that he doesn't want to communicate. What happens in the material realm is small and unimportant compared to Eternity, and we don't understand the bigger picture, the entire Universe of our lives and the lives around us, and how it is playing out. It's for our good, whatever it is. But you can't control that.

You wrote that you feel you may be expecting too much but you miss your Dad beyond words.

Your love comes through, and so does your anguish at not having the common interaction with him that you had. You have a new relationship now, and you need to move into it with the certainty that he's with you. A grief therapist would be very helpful. You can find one locally through the yellow pages.

Our Web site at mindstudies.com lists the therapists now trained to do induced after-death communications. The therapist will decide whether you are too much into your grief now to be able to do an IADC. You'll need to contact one to learn the answer to that question.

But do consult someone to help you go forward in your new relationship with your Dad. He's part of your future now and he's with you in the present, but in another way. You need to grow into that and feel comfort in it.

Craig