Hello Mark,

You speak of your dad in the past tense. He isn’t past. He’s present. And in the present he is full of love for you. The things that people say and do that are negative when they are in bodies are a result of the bodies, not who they really are. In all the IADCs people have experienced in therapists’ offices, the deceased communicates love and understanding, even when the relationship has been full of thorns. When there is frustration, anger, or bitterness, especially in someone whose body is dying, the body is doing that because of something—a childhood of anger, life frustrations, disease, discomfort from the body failing. When the body drops off, all the love that was there under the surface is all that’s left, and it’s all there for the loved ones still living.

Your father never left you, but any frustration, anger, or bitterness has left him. That’s why you experienced him smiling at you. That’s a very common induced after-death communication experience: seeing the smiling, warm face. The important message is communicated clearly: I’m still with you and I have only love for you.

Your father isn’t in your past. He’s in your present, and he’s in your future. And now he has only unconditional love and pride in you. That’s what he was saying to you in your vision of him. All that was wonderful in him is all that is with you now. Enjoy his love for you, and when you think of him, you'll remember him sitting there smiling at you. That's him saying "I love you."

Craig