Hello Teresa,

You remember that when your mum was in a body, it wasn’t her skin you loved, or her forehead, or her nose, or her brain, or anything about her body. You loved the person your mum was. You loved the love that you felt from her. You loved her attitude and her personality. You loved her feelings and her thoughts. When she stopped using the body, only the body left. Your mum, the person you love, was still there, just not in a body. And she didn’t leave you. All the love, attitude, personality, feelings, and thoughts are with you just as though she were standing with you in a body. You have to understand that nothing was lost when her body stopped working except her overcoat, which she just took off and left because it was tattered and falling apart. The mum you love is still with you, and she still loves you.

You wrote, “It was along time before i knew what to do next, mum was lying in the mortuary. i wanted a message from her i wanted to feel her and to tell me what to do. I even went back to her home in italy for 10 days just for an answer. why couldnt mum help me. why didnt i feel her.”

She was there, but she is with you now. She can’t speak because she doesn’t have vocal chords any more. She can’t put her arms around you because the body is gone. She can’t kiss you because her lips don’t have life in them. But she still loves you and wants you to know she’s fine. She is in a body that’s in its twenties or thirties, with no disease, perfectly healthy and vital. But you’re on a different plane from that body, so all she can influence you with is her love and thoughts.

Listen for those thoughts that aren’t spoken, and feel the feelings she is feeling for you. You have to relax and let go of your grief long enough to feel her presence and let her thoughts come to you. Watch the video at this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jN4SOjwY2Mw It will help you learn how to relax and be open. Don’t expect apparitions or dreams or raps on the table. You won’t get them. But she’s really trying to communicate with you. She wants you to know she’s happy and she loves you. The part of her you loved--her self--is still alive and well and with you just as it was when she was in a body.

You wrote, “I had to make a decision where mum was going to be buried. This afternoon she was embalmed ready to make her journy back to italy in the cemetry where her other sisters and deceased parents are. I hope ive done the right thing i couldnt bare her being in a cemetry by herself and mum was always dedicated and made sure other members of her family that passed away had flowers and candles lit, she went religously to the cemetry.”

Oh, Teresa, your mum isn’t in that tired body that isn’t useful any more. She left it when she took her last breath. She wasn’t buried, and she isn’t in a cemetery. She used that old body, but she’s now in another body, with the same love, attitude, personality, feelings, and thoughts she had when she was using the body you were familiar with. The body has no meaning now, just as the old pair of shoes you had when you were five years old have no use to you now. They were useful when you were wearing them, but now they’re gone and you have new shoes. And you don't care about those old shoes. Your mum is very much alive and happy, just on a new plane. And the fact that she isn’t using that old body any more doesn’t change her love for you. She’s just like she was, and she loves you just as she did.

You wrote, “I love my mum so much i hope i will be buried with her one day. But i will go to see her.”

Don’t go to the cemetery to see her. She’s not there. She’s wherever you are. She’s back home with you. Sit down and talk with her there. Don’t visit the cemetery. She’s not there, Teresa. She’s beside you at home.

You wrote, “do you think, though im here in england, she will see a candle light if i light it for her.”

Yes, if you wish, light a candle for her, but then talk to her just as you did when you both were using bodies. She will always come to you when you think of her. She’ll come when you call to her, whether it’s in your home or on the bus or in a plane or on vacation. She will come to wherever you are.

Don’t go to the cemetery. She’s not there. She’s standing beside you.

Love and peace, Craig